A man has written to a relationship expert Osigwe Omo-Ikirodah anchor of iRelationship make or mar over a serious issue troubling him.
According to him, the mum insists he must sleep with her before he marries his fiancee, she claims it is an act that must be done if he wants the wife to never cheat in their marriage.
See the unedited message as sent by Mike to Osigwe Omo-Ikirodah.
Hello Osigwe, please do publish and tell me what to do.
I am about to get married to my longtime beau of three years, she is everything a man wants in a woman, tall, pretty, intelligent, and hardworking.
Recently she took in and the pregnancy is about 1 month old, after due consultations with my siblings and her own siblings we decided to fix a date for our marriage before the pregnancy becomes too heavy.
Last week I secretly did a court registry and got married to her, I never told my mum about this development because of her insistence that I must perform a certain ritual with her if I don’t want my wife to cheat on me during our marriage.
Now the problem is our traditional wedding and church wedding has been fixed and my mum says I must sleep with her (My mum)flesh to flesh before I get married to My wife, according to her it’s an age-old tradition.
She says failure to do this might make my wife cheat on me during the marriage which may lead to me fathering kids that are not mine.
Please leave the part of my ancestral lineage out of this post so your viewers won’t turn it into an ethnic issue.
I love my wife so much and I can’t bear to see her go and sleep with another man aside from wedlock.
Please I can’t see myself sleeping with my mum of 35 years because of any old tradition.
So what should I do, do I undermine my mum and risk my wife having to cheat on me during our marriage?
You have heard Mike speak his mind, so what is your opinion? No insults please, your views would go a long way in shaping the decision Mike would take.
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